Love

  1. I believe my sister may be the ultimate Narcissist! 44 years old , and still carrying her maiden name, if u see what I am getting at. In her mind she is a beautiful goddess desired by many men. She does have looks, and many admirers, but each one has been led into a trap by their own desires, they are given a taste of the honey, and then must beg, and worship to receive each drop, before they are in her very words,’dismissed. These cads are given no remorse, no second chance. There is NO remorse, then on to the next one. As a person in general, she is about, honesty, morals, religious values, rules, and laws. However compassion never plays a part in that. She excells at her job as human resource director of a large company. She can fire a person without battingan eye, or giving a thought to that terminated employees plight, or feelings. As a sister she has NO regards for my feelings, my rights, or property. She has has always done exactly as she pleases. She has one child out of wedlock, the boy was conceived purposely three weeks after she had met the father, with no plan as to how she would, or could raise him. She was unemployed at the time. No one in the family is allowed to have any thoughts concerning the abuse they suffered at the hands of our abusive mother. She was neglected, but NOT abused otherwise, in fact when our mother wasn’t away drunk in a bar, or some strangers bed, my sister was treated as special, pretty, and above the rest of us. To her mom was a Carol Brady, and there will be hell if anyone says different! Money is almost worshipped by her. In recent years she has used religion to bully others;I describe her as a bulldozer with a crucifix on it’s grille. She claims to be able to converse with God, and he responds in turn. She has made the statement that, she always knew she was meant to be great in God’s eyes. No one else can differ in their interpretation of the bible. She argues vehemently with anyone who does not share her view on EVERYTHING. She is quick to argue, vicious, and doesn’t bacdown. The only way to be in her good graces is to be in total submission to her wants,and needs. She can turn tears on,and off quickly, but there is no true feeling behind them. She is abusive, and exasperating. Fortunately she moved a couple hours away!

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  2. Three years ago, at the age of 51, I reconnected with an old boy friend from college. He had been the love of my life, but at that young age, we went our separate ways. He was British and I lived with him in England for one beautiful, romantic, amazing year. Now in midlife, he was in the “final” stages of a very messy divorce. I couldn’t believe my luck getting back with this man. He was perfect. My family adored him and everyone who knew me was so happy for me. He was tender and demonstrative, always telling me he loved me more than anything in the world and that I saved him from a depressed, hopeless existence.
    We began going back and forth across the Atlantic almost every month.
    Our week long trysts were intense and powerful. I thought that I had truly found my soul mate and he told me I was his heart and soul in every way possible.
    I had been with him a year and a half when I found out he had been maintaining a sexual relationship with a co-worker the entire time.
    I wish I could say I ended it there, but he swore to me he was done with her and that if I would give him another chance he would spend his whole life making it up to me.
    So began the cycle. Periods of intense love bombing, only to find out about another lie. More promises that we were back on the right path. Excuses about how he only lied because I forced him to with my demands.
    And then came the therapy. He would go with me if only I would give us another chance. And here’s where that incredible luck that I thought I had at the beginning of the relationship actually manifested itself. I have since read many stories of people in couples therapy getting sucked further under with a well meaning but uneducated counselor. Thank God that is not my story. Our therapist saw us for two months, then she saw me individually and explained what it was that I was dealing with.
    She told me she would not keep wasting our money and would not keep seeing us together.
    While she certainly didn’t tell me to leave him, she gave me the insight and information I needed to effectively do just that. And I am now in individual therapy with her. I went no contact with my narc and I thank God for my escape. My narcissist doesn’t feel so lucky. He stalks me regularly, attempts to love bomb me and guilt me. I get pages of e-mails every day. I don’t have any idea when he will tire of this. He has shown up unannounced on my doorstep, having taken a plane across the Atlantic, and I’m happy to say, I did not answer the door.
    I would like to know if violence is a regular part of a narcissist’s pattern when their victim gets free.

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  3. Is it possible for an Alcoholic Narcessist to change?

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  4. Why does the narc lose interest in sex after love bombing is done

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    • Most likely because he never wanted sex in the first place but used sex as a tactic to secure your affection. In other words, it was just another ploy to gain control.

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  5. Will they ever release there control?

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  6. why do they do the things to us

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  7. ; ; #PROJECTSEMICOLON. as someone who is recovering from internal tape this asshole of a person created in me you will be strong!

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  8. I am struggling as my “ex” is sitting in prison after beating me for 2 days almost killing me…he is still arrogant in thinking it wasn’t a big deal…I finally saw pics from crown attorney – showing the aftermath of his temper tantrum…absolutely horrific,,,i am so angry…I hate him,,yet I think if this sorry ass every minute of everyday…how could I still feel anything for this “Man”…starting to remember bits and pieces of those two days…and im not sure how im going to move on..its ok now becuz he is away..but my god..heartbroken? wow…words cant describe

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    • You will survive because God’s not done with you. U obviously survived two days of him beating you for a reason and purpose in life. So look at it that way instead of using any thoughts on him. U were trained for however long to think of his needs first, now that he is put away for however long, it’s time to retrain yourself. Think about u and your self worth, put one thought a day in ur head about u and soon u will no longer think of him because u will learn to love ur self again.
      I endured 14 years of my husbands narcissistic ways. Finally woke up one day and realized I didn’t want to be that person or live that life any more. March 2014 is the day I left and if we didn’t have a child together I would have never looked back. However I no longer accept his words in my life. Yes! Every day is a struggle, a type of struggle that is internal and no one can see but I promise u it’s worth it.
      I have since met a man who showed me that real love and affection doesn’t have to be qualified or earned. I was a strong believer that the movies made us women believe in fairy tales and the fantasy of love because it could never really exisit like that. I am here to tell u from someone who begged her ex to love her everyday, that love is real and it doesn’t hurt! Whether or not this man is in my life for a moment or a lifetime, he has shown me that people that love u don’t hurt u! This was a concept I was unaware of. Nor do u owe them back ten times more.
      I wish u all the blessings this world has to offer you & u will be in my prayers, so God may heal ur mind, body, heart & soul, for that was not his plan for u, His plan is abundance and joyful, this he has promised you 😃😊

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  9. just glad that im now free from a narcissistic mother! my life nearly ruined!

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