- NEVER allow yourself to look back at this relationship as anything but destructive, fake, and abusive! The Narcissist wants to remain affixed in your mind and heart, but it is more manipulation to control and harm YOU. They completely rely on ‘appearances’ to create their world and those ‘appearances’ are all FALSE and based on LIES! So, remember when you get lost in thoughts concerning them that you are believing in a false illusion or THEIR LIES of what THEY are portraying and NOTHING more.
- A Narcissist will keep recycling us into this abuse with their careful and highly manipulative words that really deflect from the truth of who and what they are complete opportunists that will take and steal whatever they can from all people. They will divert from the truth of their conflicted reality by adding a little bit more of that charm, an apology, or whatever they need to do to always hide the truth – and the REASON WHY – to keep us hanging on because they still need SOMETHING from you! Nothing has really changed because they have been doing this diversion tactic at every level of the relationship in some form or fashion.
- CLARITY to move forward! How is a Narcissist able to walk around in our world and get away with emotional and psychological murder? Through their extreme Charm and Harm manipulation, OR the same way they manipulated you and I into believing in them. They control all people in the same manner and take it a step further by compartmentalizing people by THEIR needs. Nobody is the wiser to their many lies and facades.
- Tools of the Narcissist’s TRADE – Triangulation or ‘divide and conquer’ – KEEPING us in a revolving circle of chaos and abuse by PROXY as well as compartmentalizing and separating people to keep their lies and secrets personalized and away from people that KNOW the truth or find out the LIES! JUST another deceptive tool of the Narcissist’s trade.
- We MUST stop believing in any part of this relationship or Narcissist and process the truth that we were ONLY performing for them so they could get all they could from us until they DRAINED us dry of everything – this was abuse!
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