Things Narcissists Do

Things Narcissists Do…


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1. THEY REFUSE RESPONSIBILITY.

It’s not their fault. Not EVER. It’s always your fault. His fault. Her fault. To a narcissist, it’s not their fault they hurt you, it’s your fault for being hurt-able. If your feelings are hurt, it’s not their fault; it’s your fault – for having feelings. (You may be told that you’re “choosing” to feel bad about the hurtful things they’ve done, and that it’s the wrong “choice”.) If caught doing something insensitive or selfish, they will tell you they “had to” do it because of someone or something else. If you imply that anything is their responsibility, they give you excuses and lies, and often, if those fail to work, they will finally make it clear that the bottom line is they simply don’t care because they don’t have to, and the fact that you care is just unnecessary or wrong. From their perspective, you shouldn’t care — you should get it right like they do, and be more like they are. Uncaring.

2. THEY LIE.

Narcissists lie to make themselves look good. They lie to get out of emotional responsibility. They lie to manipulate. They lie to gain influence. They lie out of habit. Life is a game to narcissists – a game they have to think they’re winning – and truth is one casualty in their game plan. The only time a narcissist has any interest in telling the truth is when it will serve them or cost them nothing to do so. The rest of the time, they don’t consider it necessary or important to be all that honest. Honesty can impede their self-gratification and compromise their powerful persona, and they don’t like that. To narcissists the truth is frequently “flexible” and optional. There’s no such thing as an honest narcissist.

3. THEY LOOK DOWN ON YOU.

Narcissists have to make themselves feel bigger by convincing themselves others are smaller by comparison. They’re no strangers to being condescending, snobby, clique-ish, elitist and superior; however, they may be very good at hiding their disdain to prevent a loss of popularity, which narcissists know brings them power. Narcissists with money look down on the working class. Narcissists in the working class look down on those with more money. Educated narcissists dismiss the opinions of those who have no degree. Narcissists with no degree claim educated people don’t actually know anything. Whatever narcissists HAVE (or think they have) is what they use to look down on others WITH. No-one else’s background, appearance, values, political persuasion, school, preferences, religion, way of life, profession or opinions are ever any good or worthy of their respect unless they themselves value and/or possess the same. If you think or choose differently from a narcissist, you’re “wrong”, and they’re “right”.

4. THEY’RE TWO-FACED.

Narcissists literally have two faces — their real face and their stage face. And neither is anything like the other. Which one you see will depend on how long you’ve known them. Narcissists can be very charming and know how to gain favor. Anyone who doesn’t know a narcissist well will tell you the narcissist is one of the greatest people they’ve ever met! They believe this is one of the most intelligent, kindest, most interesting, funny, agreeable, most attractive, talented or accomplished people ever. They may wish they themselves had it so “together” or were so popular. However, anyone who knows that same narcissist better (family members, longtime coworkers, etc) will tell you the narcissist is one of the most horribly frustrating and toxic people they know, and the mere mention of their name makes them feel uneasy, angry, frustrated or otherwise unhappy. Being the only one who is experiencing a narcissist’s real face, while all other family members or coworkers can still only see the narcissist’s stage face is a very lonely, painful and frustrating place to be. Thankfully, the number of people who can see through the facade tends to increase with time.

5. THEY’RE VINDICTIVE.

If you dare to question a narcissist or request things like healthy boundaries and honesty, you’re going to become public enemy number one. The “Mr. or Ms. Wonderful” mask immediately comes off, and there is no level they will not stoop to in order to “punish” you. They have myriad ways of attempting this; some are covert, and some are open and obvious. The narcissist has a seemingly inexhaustible obsession for making people who cross them “pay”. Once they set their sights on you, you’re a permanent enemy, and their seething spite will feel as intense years down the road as it did when it first began. The length of time they can keep up the full intensity of their hatred for you and their campaign to exact revenge is absolutely dumbfounding to non-narcissistic people.

6.THEY PROJECT PSYCHOLOGICALLY.

Many mentally disordered individuals project frequently. Narcissists, however, are some of the most actively and severely projecting people encountered. Ever full of accusations and criticisms, the most crazy-making thing about most of the narcissist’s claims is that YOU are doing exactly what THEY are doing. (Projection.) Have they just lied to you? Well, you’re about to be called dishonest. Are they cheating you out of an opportunity? You’re going to get the finger pointed at you for being sneaky. And you can’t say a word to them about something hurtful they have done, because that makes you an abuser – of them. You can’t give them anything but glowing feedback without their raging at you, but you’ll be the one constantly criticized severely and then called freakishly oversensitive if you show any feelings about it. And if they say so, it’s law — you don’t know what you’re talking about.

7. THEY SMEAR PEOPLE WHO OPPOSE THEM.
Narcissists are allergic to healthy boundaries and fairness. If you question the insensitive things they do or put any limits whatsoever on their bad behavior, you will be targeted for social, professional, or personal obliteration. Whatever narcissists perceive to be your psychological or situational “weak spots” will be their prime targets. For instance, if the narcissist knows that your greatest fear is social ridicule, that will be the main focus of the smear campaign. If he or she knows that recently, you made a mistake for which you feel guilty, that will be used against you. Narcissists know that the more effectively they can pinpoint your insecurities or flaws, the more successful they will be in eroding your confidence and your influence. And if they manage to do that, they stand a good chance of getting back the power they planned to do whatever they pleased with before you “got in their way”.

  1. Im going through every step for almost 2 years. Everything you have described is exactly what her behavior is like. Thank you for your help

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  2. Singingmywaythrough

    Going through no 7 at our place of work now. Always there is a culture of victim blaming. If not, apathy. So hard

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  3. Both my daughter and her father are this way. I divorced her father bit am now subject to her physical attacks and threats. Verbal abuse and hurtfull remarks. She has no problem telling her nine year old son to F off and calls me filthy names. I’m afraid of her. She has admitted that for the last 2 yrs she has tried many ways to have me jailed or put into a mental health facility. She almost suceeded So now our local police think I have issues I wI’ll never call them for anything.
    She won’t let me see my grandson whom lived with me til he was 4 and then was at my home alot. She dumps him for any trash she meets and then won’t let me see him.

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  4. WOW. what I just read on your website nailed my EX to a T!!
    Unbelievable. THIS IS A NARCISSIST!
    Hands down.

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  5. My husband has been scarey and violent Aside I havent seen before. For over A year he attacked his daughter and a family friend and me the day I got out of hospital he is controlling thinks he knows better than any one else and blames me and the family for every thing wrong His lies are over board and crazy.
    Then last Friday I caught him cheating on me
    I have been confused and scared . I have been reading up on Narcissistic people and IAM shocked BECOUSE I am reading my husband profile he is A text book Pathtic Narcissistic

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  6. My x husband was/is a monster. I still have nightmares about him. He tried and almost succeeded in turning my own daughter against me after I left him…and he even began a web page about his unprofessional diagnosis of who he thought I was and *what* I was. He used my legal name and also the pen name I was publishing under to smear me. He deliberately sought out publishing houses I had queried regarding s project I had spent 14 months on, and by the time he was done no one would touch me with a 20 foot pole. I was viewed as a liability with respect to marketing and “bad press” I may inadvertantly cause due to his continued rants.

    I’ve decided to change my name both out of continued fear of him, and fear for my career. What he will continue to do to me professionally if I don’t. These kinds of people-they are predatory monsters. Brilliant ones. I don’t dare allow any photo of myself to be shared with the reader in “about author” back cover sheet. It will begin all over again…and I know, that for the rest of my life, I have to live it in fear of him and what he will continue to do to me…because he can. That’s all there is to it. He can. So he will. And he is vey careful to remain just one step away from actually breaking the law each time he does something new new. god above help me if this new project maintains momentum. If I get noticed further by people who have the tile of “producers”. My face…what will I do when I can no longer hide my face? What will he do to me then? I live in abject terror of it. This man is out to destroy me. And I know he won’t stop until he succeeds.he has destroyed my life…because it’s becoming public due to my profession. I can’t hide forever this way…and the courts have bound hands because this man is so very gifted at staying just a fraction behind actually nreeaking the letter of the law for any sny what he does.

    He told me I’d never be able to support myself after I left him…and I mitsknely believed it was just another jab meant to ridicule me. I had no comprehension at the time the his intention was to make certain he tanked my professional career, and my ability to support our son separate and apart from him.

    I suppose eventually I will simply need to hire a publicist who will slam back and refuse, refute, refute, the. Sue, sue, sue or at least attempt not if-but when he finds me yet again, to smear me publically and professionally all over again. After all…he has been getting away with tin for six years, an, that just rein orcas to him that it’s perfectly ok to continue on his merry destructive way. To new readers: read the above articles about how to identify an NPD personality type. Memorize it. If you come across one-even if you’re note 100 percent certain just-run baby run. this is my advice to you. You can not change nor save these personality types so don’t even try. Just run. Before what has happened to me, happens to you.

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    • Singingmywaythrough

      Hold on to your truth, your reality. Don’t be afraid. They feed off your fear. He will eventually show himself for what he is. Sending you courage and hope

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  7. I agree with all of the points in this article. Wow! Reading this was like a light bulb going on over my head. After nearly 30 years of this behavior from my sister, lying, stealing, manipulating myself and my family, disappearing for years only to reappear as a ‘new and changed person’, I have finally realized that she has this illness and is beyond help. She took all the responsibility for caring for mom when she was sick although we were all there for her, thanking her for raising her child and asking for forgiveness. I was the bad person because I wasn’t at her side 24/7. When mom died she used her credit cards, took all of mom’s belongings that weren’t given to me ahead of time..mom knew who she was and was afraid of what she would do when she was gone. She took over and manipulated our vulnerable father into letting her and her daughter move in so she could build a relationship with her son (she never had one) and from there, took control of his life. She lied, stole from him and tried to prevent me from visiting him, manipulated him into writing letters to social services that she was paying rent so she could collect more, all while telling the world that she was so caring and honest and the ‘good’ child for taking care of her father. My husband, myself and her son were the only ones who knew or believed what she was really doing. The final straw was when the stress on my dad was too much and he passed away and the only person she had left to blame for her sorry life was me, my husband, children and anyone connected to us. I was publicly smeared and blamed for her non existent relationship with her son. Truthfully, she tried to destroy me and my family by portraying us as monsters who were trying to ruin her life. I had control of the estate as our parents had written her out of their will years ago because of her lies and deceit and replaced her with her son and I was the bad person in her eyes. She camped out in dad’s house and started calling the police when I or my husband came to clean and ready the house for sale. We eventually had to evict her. Once I realized that she was truly ill, I began to distance myself from her and stopped giving her fuel to work with. She moved to another state to ‘punish’ us and her son but unfortunately, distance has angered her because I have custody of her son and he has no desire to ever see her again, and he’s old enough to make that decision. There’s so much more to the story and the pain that I have had to endure for more than half my life is beyond what I ever thought I could feel. Even though she is the only living close family that I have left, I’m glad she’s out of my life and have no desire to have any contact with her in the future. I can begin to heal and fix the path of destruction that she left behind.

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  8. This just cleared everything up 100 %

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  9. My ex did all things… What I noticed recently is the smearing of all my friends. One friend was a drug addict… The other slept around… The other was using a witch doctor to off her inlaws (I was in Southern Africa). At first I believed him… But next thing you know there was something wrong with all my friends. I thought it was social isolation but I see now he also didn’t like my friends because they didn’t like him (big surprise there). He smeared them… And I’m sure he’s smearing me now. The hard part is I really like his family and I hope they don’t take his words too seriously for the sake of our son.

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  10. linda hartman -hoban

    Can a person be half a narcissist? One parent true narcissist and the other a sweet human being with none of these traits?

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  11. I have become a target, a women at my husbands work and he is involved can’t see her for what she is and he thinks he is in love. It’s terrible I can’t win this battle and he is on a road to distuction.

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  12. I agree with all these points. Very well written article. My sister is the narcissist in my life. I’ve pretty much had to cut her off and she was destroying me. It’s very hard as she is all the living family I have left.

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  13. Does this sound like someone in the white house???

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  14. Hi again…I need advice. He finally moved most of his stuff out today. ..boy was that ugly. Anyway, he will not be allowed back into my house again where he can manipulate me. The advice I need is…we bought a $24k boat together…well I paid for it and he paid me back $6.5k.we had it for 3 years. I paid the slip fee for 2 yrs by myself, we split it the 3rd year. I paid all insurance. I paid for most of gas (all the first year). We did some upgrades and I paid for most of those. He also lived with me and bought half the groceries and paid for my cell phone…the rest I paid for 3 years! I know I am an ahole for letting this happen. I am dirt poor now and I have 2 kids to look after. The boat is in my name and worth 30k. He wants me to pay him 15k or sell it and give him half. I didn’t want to do that bc i would lose money on it while he gained money….he’s already taken to much from me! He wants yo go to court over it and I am afraid of the repercussions of winning my case bc i can prove everything. He would come for me and destroy me. Do I just give in to protect myself and give him half?

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    • I would it will take time but you will recover in peace. Remember you are not the one who is ill he is. It’s too bad that along the way he has destroyed your trust in men, you will be forever thinking that they are after your money or will at sometime in your relationship become who he is. Best of luck be strong.

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  15. Good on you “Karl Gruber”! these people in this feed have had a very real part of their lives taken from them by these “special individuals” who were meant to “love them” (I myself gave my spouse 21 years of my life to ruin) and you trivialise it with unhelpful comments about politics. Perhaps this is not the page for you! Best of luck to the rest of my fellow sufferers may you find your strength and rise above these selfish souls.

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  16. Is there any chance that the narc can ever change their ways, nd also, that this (their behaviour) is a choice that they make, they choose to act this way to people? Will they treat everyone the same ugly way, even someone they say they love and want in their life?

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  17. Great article. Having spent 7 years of hell with a narc I agree with these comments. For more info and help recovering from narcissist abuse, check out Melanie Tonia Evans website.

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  18. It has been a blast but read this so you understand why you do what you do. Happy Holidaze!

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  19. This describes the Prime Minister of New Zealand down to a T

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  20. @Montychristo86: Spot ON regarding the shame comments!

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  21. While some people may be actual Narcissists…..all humans have Narcissitic tendencies. It’s called sin/self/flesh.

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  22. This is my ex to a T! Everything is spot on. I agree with Cathy as well #8. They move onto their next victim so fast it makes your head spin. My ex is still not even moved out and he’s with someone else. He’s also a sex addict who cheated on me repeatedly (which I should’ve just gotten over). We own something together which I mostly paid for so we are arguing over that. I’ve tried to be civil to him because I am afraid of what he may do to me but I know this argument over what we own may end up in court. I know I will win and I am frightened to what the repercussions may be. Any suggestions or support is welcome.

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  23. I had a sister like this and awful as it sounds my first reaction when she died was ” she will no longer be able to harm anyone else”. She caused so many frictions within our family with her lies and manipulation that it was like a dark cloud lifted. I never could work out whether she actually believed her own lies but she seemed to – once she said a thing, however outlandish, it became her “truth”. I found her very disturbing.

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  24. My mother exactly. I’ve spent my lifetime trying to manage my relationship with her. It is unmanageable because as the description states she won’t get help because she it is not her fault. Plus throw in bipolar and extreme depression. I feel like I live on an island. I wish she would just go away leave my life permanently. She always finds her way in even though I give boundaries etc. BLAH BLAH BLAH…………

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  25. Oh my goodness, I don’t know how this showed up on my FB page, the Lord must have put this article there!!!! My niece and I have been trying not to invite my sister over for Thanksgiving because of the so accurate descriptions of a narcissist. We just don’t have the energy to deal with her… All the drama is exhausting. We cook (and cook extra for leftovers) and clean everything then we get in the way when she is making her 10 pound “go box” when she has brought nothing – oh, I’m wrong….she has bought paper plates and made it here with them, surprise, surprise, surprise.
    Please pray for us, we just lost our father in June so it will be hard anyway.
    Thanks for listening.
    Tears.

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  26. I caught my ex with his affair lover in our home 5 years ago. 5 yrs ago I was so happy & content & married to the most wonderful man in the world. After I discovered his affair my nightmare began into the hell of narcissism. I divorced last yr after ha ha! after he had file & served me for divorce 2 yrs after his affair, claiming we had nothing in common, actually it was he who wanted nothing to do with me because I was hurt & angry & needing his reassurance & the more I told him I needed him the more he ignored me. For some reason I signed to stop his divorce but 2 yrs later when I was o tired of being lied to, ignored, betrayed with other women on FB ( and he says you are just so insecure you dont want me to have women friends!@!@!) I filed divorce & oh now how could divorce himI after how hard he tried, I am abusive to him & blah blah blah. Long story short was living with his best female single friend (his friend the last 3 yrs of our marriage!) After the divorce was final, I had to move out of our home of 12 yrs because Mr Sunshine never put me on the deed…anyway I move out because I was harassed out & the very next day he moved his girlfriend into the ome that we shared, but worse my home where my grand babies played, into my kitchen that I cooked & shared meals in & my gardens that I delighted & danced in…They are sick unfeeling vile disgusting creatures that need to be euthanized! Anyway way they will always have at least 2 waiting in the wings for them & once you have questioned or challenged them you are replaced in a heart beat! And secrets OMG! It is important to share our experiences & expose these fools because nothing enrages them more than you showing & telling the world how they really are!

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  27. Dealing with my ex at the moment in court.Everything you wrote is him . I’m emotionally so exhausted dont know what to expect from him next.I dont want to win all I wamt is justice and fairness, but that is not their game.Can’t comprehend the evil I am dealing with now.I regret allowing him in my life…..

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  28. He did all of those things. I wasted 3 years trying to defend myself against his attacks. It was my fault he drank, drug, od’d and abused me. Thank God I am away from it now. I am an intelligent, educated woman but had no idea people like that existed. I do now!

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  29. All 7 points are 100% accurate.
    1. Refuse responsibility ….. what’s responsibility. Nothing is their fault EVER.
    2. They Lie – my H is not a blatant liar. He lies by rewriting history or twisting reality in such a way that the truth is contorted. Very complex, and very confusing. Example: I had a miscarriage between child 1 and 2. He knew about it, but didn’t give a damn about it and sat in another room watching TV while I miscarried. There was no empathy, concern or anything. Now, years later, he claims not to remember it at all and says that I must have forgotten to tell him about the pregnancy!!!
    3. They Look Down on You – they look down on everyone else on the planet as far as I’m concerned.
    4. They’re 2 Faced – goes without saying. Street angel/home devil. One persona for one part of their life an another for the other.
    5. They’re Vindictive – ha, as far as my H is concerned I’m his “number 1 public enemy” simply because I’ve spoke in disagreance with him in public!!! So what does he have to do to rectify this …. go on a smear campaign to discredit me – I’m the one with mental health issues it seems.
    6. They Project Psychologically – my H spews projection almost continuously. He accuses me of being what he is all the time. Some of his projections are scary – especially when he accuses me of wanting to kill him ……
    7. They Smear People Who Oppose Them – umm, my H smears anyone and everyone, wether they oppose or don’t If anyone is considered a “threat” he smears them. No one can have anything that’s better than what he has – that evokes an automatic smear campaign to discredit them and run them down. Anyone who does cross his path, for whatever reason, is always then run down in a very nasty and vicious way.

    Once you get to know your narc, their ways are clearly definable. They become predictably unpredictable in the sense that you are not surprised with the behaviour, but rather when it is delivered.

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  30. I have a sister and high school friend who are narcissist . They get along well. They are both mean to me.

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  31. Wow, This is my wife….Amazing….It is a one-way street. Her computer is locked…If I would even attempt to password mine, it would be huge. No matter how much you think you did the right thing they criticize. If she spends money, it is a necessity, if I do, it is wasteful….But the absolute worst is when they bring you to tears and then scoff that you are such a baby!

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  32. I understand their behavior is disorder-based, but narcissists do things that are inexcusable. I am Christian 20-something who is trying to move on from a narcissistic father and stepmother. After nearly two years of treatment, I am a lot better, but I still cannot completely forgive the two of them.

    It’s a shame these people wanna stay babies all their lives. If you look at how narcs never let you reach the emotional age of 21 and how they deny responsibility, everything they do is to run away from their issues and problems. They live in such fear of shame that most never get out of themselves. It’s like they fear the authority figure(s) that shamed them in the first place.

    Right now, I am setting my sights on creating a ministry based on art music and media. Part of that ministry would help people who have been abused by toxic people like narcissists. I also pray that because of forums like these, people will give their hearts to Jesus or at least wake up and think about how they are parenting their kids. That’s where this disorder starts – the formative years of childhood. If you love a child the right way, they will succeed, but loving a child out of desperate wants or wishes will disappoint you and wreck your child.

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  33. Thy are all true, but the last point is what broke me and then helped realize what kind of person my mother is. She told the whole family what a selfish person I was cause she couldn’t manipulate money out of us, even though my whole life I spent taking care of her every need. Now those who believed her and turned against me are no longer in my life. I say if you didn’t believe in me in the first place you will never believe me! I have a very low contact relationship with her now and she has become a stranger. I think she still daily tries to punish me for walking away but they mostly don’t bother me anymore. Let the haters hate, I have better people around now!

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  34. Hi. I am glad you are not selling your house. That would be giving her way too much power and control over you and your actions. Here is an article I found very helpful. Maybe you will too. Be boring. Be a gray rock. If you ignore them long enough, they will move on to greener pastures.

    http://www.lovefraud.com/2012/02/10/the-gray-rock-method-of-dealing-with-psychopaths/

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  35. hi,
    thanks for the advice. no,i have not sold my home yet, and am going to take it off the market.my final divorce hearing is Friday, and I am looking forward to ending this. next time I see her,i will wave. may I ask, do you believe this is going to stop anytime soon?

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  36. thank you Patrice! I will do that.

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  37. So, i just mived into my own apartment yesterday, by the grace of God and with the means He supplied. I was JUST reading this list on my phone when a text message popped up from the N telling me he was sorry that i felt i had to leave! Hmmmm, number 1, check! I am so grateful for blogs like this one that give me a clue of what I’m dealing with. Because it seems I was clueless for 17 years of marriage. Now i can play his game by knowing what his game is, and not playing anymore. Thanks so much for this blog! God bless everyone reading this as you heal from your N relationship.

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  38. Can we just have a mugshot page so others are warned? I suppose not, that’s something they would do.

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  39. I was with rose a short time. Everything you describe came to be after we got engaged. She left 3 times.each time doing something hurtful and blaming me. She used me to gain things and told her family it was me. She and I got married after she convinced me she was confused.so many lies and accusations.after two week of marriage she left again. I had had enough. I was doubting myself and emotionally distraught. I am in the process of divorce. She drives by my home everyday.I am selling my home and moving as she lives close by.

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    • Hi Michael,

      I am sorry you are going through this. I don’t know if you sold your home yet, but.it seems to me by doing that, you are showing her she still has power over you. Next time she drives by, peek out the window and wave to her.

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  40. Totally my ex husband!!!… But good luck to him, as i ignore him, so he cant graze me… Ive become to strong for his games, i see them all over.

    #freeknpig#

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  41. They run hot and cold, issue ultimatums. Act the martyr to your stupidity and yes, the revenge, the moving on … when you are finally free of their charm offensive the reality can be horrifying. (And they ALL think I mean them.) manipulative if they want something you have, resentful of their own need. All relationship cycles have lows and highs. Catch the N at the peak of a personal high, humbly agree they Are Right, and take the opportunity their contempt affords you to get the hell out of there: you can’t leave them, but you can accept their dismissal.

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  42. Colleen Loxterkamp

    So what is the answer for them or the ones who love them. Is there help?

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  43. #8 They find a new victim so fast it makes your head spin.

    My ex meet his new victim after 4 months and married her three months later. All along attempting to contact me. Never once did he confess his faults, declare his love, say he missed me or needed me. He did show up across the street at his adopted sister’s place (something he NEVER did, he has a nearly non-existent relationship with her) 2 weeks before he got remarried (This is his 4th marriage BTW). Probably hoping for a chance encounter. Oh yeah and it does suck having the sister across the street!!!

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    • Have to agree 100% with Cathy re point #8. Wish i’d seen this list sooner :(
      My ex fitted all those categories. But after she left she kept pestering me for money because she was “someone you should care about”. And sucker that I was, I was going to send her the money until a quick google search revealed that not only had she recently started a new, well paid job (since fired from!), but she was also newly married!
      This list made me finally realise that it was not my fault. I feel sorry for the girl, but she is a calssic Narcissist.

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    • I had a very similar experience. It took him only three weeks to find another woman to mooch off of even while texting me that he “missed” me and telling me on the day the divorce was finalized that this was my “last chance to back out”. Um, thanks but no thanks. I wish the new victim the best of luck. Last I heard, he is sleeping on the floor at the new girlfriend’s mother’s house. Kind of hilarious actually.

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    • Try two days!!!

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    • My Husband had his victim move in the day after I left. Had her lined up. Worst part is, she was my friend of 16yrs. Had my Mom calling her “Mama” from the start, before I even knew anyone was in my house! She’s an idiot and he’s a monster. Kicked me and our 3 kids out to move her and her 3 in. To her he is nothing but AMAZING, after 11yrs I pity for what she will be put through. That’s on her though for being such a horrible human being.

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      • BetrayedByANarcissist

        My husband chose his victim and began the affair in June. We are still married and living under the same roof with a toddler. I bought the house, we moved in, and less than a year later, he is cheating with some lowlife he met at the bank near where he works, telling her how much he loves her. I didn’t find out until last month. I bought him a concert ticket for his birthday, sold out show, because he said his work friends were going… guess who he really went with! And she was “so nice” that he slept with her; I unwittingly financed his affair. I don’t feel bad for the other woman, though, since she chose to sleep with a married man. Karma.

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  44. You should put my “husbands” face as the poster-person for these descriptions.
    Great descriptions, btw.

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