- Tools of the Narcissist’s TRADE – Triangulation or ‘divide and conquer’ – KEEPING us in a revolving circle of chaos and abuse by PROXY as well as compartmentalizing and separating people to keep their lies and secrets personalized and away from people that KNOW the truth or find out the LIES! JUST another deceptive tool of the Narcissist’s trade.
- We MUST stop believing in any part of this relationship or Narcissist and process the truth that we were ONLY performing for them so they could get all they could from us until they DRAINED us dry of everything – this was abuse!
- THOSE LIES! You will never be able to conjure up a conceivable motive for why they lie as they do. If they are breathing, they are lying – and you can count on the fact that it is to always benefit THEM or to protect THEM from their previous lies and indiscretions, or to weasel their way out of a bad situation, OR into a situation that serves THEM!
- Just disengage with them because their conversations are diversions to take us to a point where we feel diminished, worthless, wrong, or anything to keep us as confused and controlled! Talking, arguing, or discussing anything with a Narcissist is like being on a ‘hamster wheel’ that is in perpetual dizzying motion! You keep running and running but you NEVER leave point A and there never is a point B. You only continue to run in circles until you are completely exhausted.
- Once we see the abuse and the abuser behind the mask, we can NEVER unsee it or go back to it again! The UNSEEN ABUSE that only WE see and know because it happens behind OUR closed doors. That Narcissist’s CHARM that soon turns into HARM when we let them into our lives, our world, our head, and our heart! It is time to ‘boot’ that Narcissist out completely, close that door, and bolt it shut so that Narcissist can never return and get back in.
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