I went no contact five months ago and want NOTHING to do with her however my dad I left behind. His health failing. He is 84. Scared but meeting him no of course not..she has to be there. Dominating when I want dad. We were torn apart. Yet close through my w0 year journey with a horrible illness. She abandoned. He by my side two decades. Then I had moved and suddenly he was pulled. After 20 years. I list the past four with him. A pain like no other. I must see him and am in few weeks but how to talk to him without dominating? How do you get over your father being taken and then too late! Her hating me..fine let me go but dad!!!!-!! I am in torture
I’ve been separated fro the narc husband for over a year now. There is a court ordered no contact order placed…But we were still seeing each other. I couldn’t help hoping that there
had to be something I could do to win him over again. I was so in love with him. He was beautiful. Last year he went to jail for 2 months. It was like I woke up from some weird haze. It was like i was a brainwashed marshmellow around him. I decided to take a fine tooth comb thru everything in our place. But it wasn’t what I found, it was what was missing, some underwear, PJ’s, a camera and a sex toy. I then took control of the laptop. I had no idea about computers. I don’t know how I did it but in 2 months I had disected that laptop. He was a prostitute. He would look up woman on all kinds of websites and meet them and get paid for it. I found out he was hiding money in one of the trailers.
I decided this wasn’t going to happen anymore. I went through severe depression. I was losing anywhere from 4lbs-8lbs a week. I wasn’t working. I give up a 13 year job for him. I tucked my tail between my legs and held my head up when I re-applied at the old company. *sigh* He showed up at the suite when he got out of jail. trying to get in the windows and banging on the door. I was afraid. He had hurt me several times before. I called 911 and the Police caught him in the yard. I was then evicted. I had 10 days to move, no job. It was the hardest struggle in my life to get up and going. I had to force my self to get back to work I was so down. But I beat that battle. Thank God. I was positioned at a site I worked at years before and fell in love. I was thrilled. It was the Chapel. God sent. Now I’m in a suite he set me up in. He provided spousal support for 2 months. then stopped. Now I’m barely surviving. He ran off with someone……on my birthday. I was crushed. Since, him and his
girlfriend sent me threatening texts telling me ‘I’d better watch where I tread” funny thing is I was in a serious car accident a few hours after those texts. If the accident would have happened a few inches toward my driver’s door, I probably would have lost my legs. Then the husband had some nerve to call 2 hours after the car accident. Out of the Blue. For no reason. I called the police. Generated another file number. More texts. I saw his probation officer face to face this time. A dud. More texts. Another file number generated. No one has done a damn thing because the narc used a different number and it cant be connected to him. I’m sure there are ways that I don’t have access to. Here it is now. I’m scared, terrified, heartbroken, lonely, devastated. I miss the man i thought he was. How can someone do this to someone who loves you so much. I know now there was never any love from his side. He just wanted me around to take care of him for someone else. I feel great one day and I fall in a rut. How do I stay floating? I’ll keep swimming for as long a I need to but I’m getting tired…
Oh my heavens…. coming across this article is crazy…if I hadn’t seen this play out myself… lately I have seen little things pertaining to the narcissistic…and on a very bad day where I had. Crazy out ON EVERYONE…then total bumbed because I thought 3 days ago I was winning….damn too cause I know the play book….but God sent this as I have been sitting in a cold garage…not wanting to go in to that thing… I found this post. Evrry single word CV is truth….and I knew he was rotten…oh my god… I just remembered something… something that had given me a chill..as if something evil was about to come….but I am right…the thing is that I drank snd drank to get drunk and pass out as soon as I could. Help me …. I have thoughts it is a entity from hell..and have some small evidence of the possibility… holy water. I work at a Catholic Church all day and feel…okay. minute I am in his presence I feel strange….What would happen if I told it that I knew what it is..?
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I went no contact five months ago and want NOTHING to do with her however my dad I left behind. His health failing. He is 84. Scared but meeting him no of course not..she has to be there. Dominating when I want dad. We were torn apart. Yet close through my w0 year journey with a horrible illness. She abandoned. He by my side two decades. Then I had moved and suddenly he was pulled. After 20 years. I list the past four with him. A pain like no other. I must see him and am in few weeks but how to talk to him without dominating? How do you get over your father being taken and then too late! Her hating me..fine let me go but dad!!!!-!! I am in torture
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I’ve been separated fro the narc husband for over a year now. There is a court ordered no contact order placed…But we were still seeing each other. I couldn’t help hoping that there
had to be something I could do to win him over again. I was so in love with him. He was beautiful. Last year he went to jail for 2 months. It was like I woke up from some weird haze. It was like i was a brainwashed marshmellow around him. I decided to take a fine tooth comb thru everything in our place. But it wasn’t what I found, it was what was missing, some underwear, PJ’s, a camera and a sex toy. I then took control of the laptop. I had no idea about computers. I don’t know how I did it but in 2 months I had disected that laptop. He was a prostitute. He would look up woman on all kinds of websites and meet them and get paid for it. I found out he was hiding money in one of the trailers.
I decided this wasn’t going to happen anymore. I went through severe depression. I was losing anywhere from 4lbs-8lbs a week. I wasn’t working. I give up a 13 year job for him. I tucked my tail between my legs and held my head up when I re-applied at the old company. *sigh* He showed up at the suite when he got out of jail. trying to get in the windows and banging on the door. I was afraid. He had hurt me several times before. I called 911 and the Police caught him in the yard. I was then evicted. I had 10 days to move, no job. It was the hardest struggle in my life to get up and going. I had to force my self to get back to work I was so down. But I beat that battle. Thank God. I was positioned at a site I worked at years before and fell in love. I was thrilled. It was the Chapel. God sent. Now I’m in a suite he set me up in. He provided spousal support for 2 months. then stopped. Now I’m barely surviving. He ran off with someone……on my birthday. I was crushed. Since, him and his
girlfriend sent me threatening texts telling me ‘I’d better watch where I tread” funny thing is I was in a serious car accident a few hours after those texts. If the accident would have happened a few inches toward my driver’s door, I probably would have lost my legs. Then the husband had some nerve to call 2 hours after the car accident. Out of the Blue. For no reason. I called the police. Generated another file number. More texts. I saw his probation officer face to face this time. A dud. More texts. Another file number generated. No one has done a damn thing because the narc used a different number and it cant be connected to him. I’m sure there are ways that I don’t have access to. Here it is now. I’m scared, terrified, heartbroken, lonely, devastated. I miss the man i thought he was. How can someone do this to someone who loves you so much. I know now there was never any love from his side. He just wanted me around to take care of him for someone else. I feel great one day and I fall in a rut. How do I stay floating? I’ll keep swimming for as long a I need to but I’m getting tired…
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Oh my heavens…. coming across this article is crazy…if I hadn’t seen this play out myself… lately I have seen little things pertaining to the narcissistic…and on a very bad day where I had. Crazy out ON EVERYONE…then total bumbed because I thought 3 days ago I was winning….damn too cause I know the play book….but God sent this as I have been sitting in a cold garage…not wanting to go in to that thing… I found this post. Evrry single word CV is truth….and I knew he was rotten…oh my god… I just remembered something… something that had given me a chill..as if something evil was about to come….but I am right…the thing is that I drank snd drank to get drunk and pass out as soon as I could. Help me …. I have thoughts it is a entity from hell..and have some small evidence of the possibility… holy water. I work at a Catholic Church all day and feel…okay. minute I am in his presence I feel strange….What would happen if I told it that I knew what it is..?
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