The Narcissist’s world lacks principle, thus the inconsistency of morals and anything goes in their world – NO MATTER WHAT THE COST TO ANYBODY.
The Narcissist’s world lacks principle, thus the inconsistency of morals and anything goes in their world – NO MATTER WHAT THE COST TO ANYBODY. Remember the flip side of this as well – Narcissists are not CONSISTENT and they despise anyone that is consistent with their ethics, goodness, life, etc., because it exposes the Narcissist’s inconsistency and a constant reminder of their own self-deception. Like garlic to a vampire – they will hiss at it, try to destroy it, and run off into the darkness.
From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in between with a Narcissist
I can’t emphasize enough just how much we underestimate the truth/reality of the destructive pathological Narcissist who operates behind a facade of FAUX respectability and altruism. They are abusive to people, families, organizations, and life in general. The pathological Narcissist is a long-term plotter, like one of those brilliant chess players who can see the whole board and then plans ten or more moves ahead. It is almost impossible for anyone to uncover the complex and multi-layered schemes of such a person unless you are entirely aware of the depths of their level of intelligence (and delusion) to manipulate and hide their disordered self – THEY ARE ALWAYS A STEP AHEAD OF THE GAME. So, to know one requires knowledge we didn’t have, OR could have never completely understood if we did possess it, and even if we did unlock all of the truth we couldn’t fix them or even relate – so basically we are always left wide open to being perpetually deceived. That is just how good they are at this game to get their supply AND get away with it. We are ALL targets of this abuse, and it is never singular in nature because it destroys whole families, organizations, businesses, etc., and they have the right camouflage to hide among us and to protect themselves from being exposed. They are predators after prey and the chaos they inflict annihilates anybody that crosses their path. When we accept that and close the book to the emotions or whatever binds us to them, then we can accept the ugly truth and start to move on!
The awareness that others may have is a constant source of anxiety and fear for the Narcissist and thus a huge need to control their immediate world. The Narcissist is also aware of the limitations surrounding their facade of lies. When people talk with one another, they begin to acquire a much larger perspective of things, that is, they begin to see a bigger picture of the Narcissist. The pathological narcissist CAN’T afford to have people talking amongst themselves and sharing stories. So he/she will go to great lengths and carefully produce very devious and underhanded schemes to keep people divided. The Narcissist will create division among colleagues by planting lies about one person to another, and another about someone else. This can be a successful strategy because no one expects an intelligent adult to be carrying on like a scheming child or an emotionally disturbed adolescent. And since most of us avoid confrontation, it is much easier to believe the liar. This is the Narcissist’s damage control to protect their abusive agenda and keep an endless “SUPPLY.”
Again WE MUST understand that this abuse is intentional and as much as it was such a personal part of us, it was purely the act of an emotionally UNBALANCED and deviant human being. It seems insurmountable to try to erase what was reality to us as nothing more than a Narcissist sourcing us out to provide themselves with what they only needed to survive. Why do they go through such lengths to do this and why also destroy good people? Well I would say because it works for them, it gives them power to control us and maintain their constant supply from us, and they just love to feel this power to hurt people AND MOST IMPORTANTLY they get away with it – what other reason would motivate a person to act in this manner. Yes it is how they are wired – no empathy, no emotions, and they CAN’T love – but why destroy and damage – it is bad enough to extort people of their lives yet alone have a knife to their back ready to destroy them at any given moment? They are thieves, thugs and psycho bullies as well as destructive and dangerous so never stay a moment longer with them once you know the truth. Their truth is hidden behind so many lies, so if they can lie so easily to themselves to protect their damaged self, they will most assuredly lie to us and about us to keep their dirty secrets! NO/MINIMAL CONTACT! Greg