THIS was always the agenda with a Narcissist – or CONTROL over us for as long as we are a source of supply! ‘MANAGING DOWN’ putting more of the puzzle pieces together to understand this abuse! The Narcissist uses a distorted form of conditioning or manipulation making you believe you are OK and then you are not OK, and they use this just like you are a Yo-Yo to keep you off balance with all the ups and downs – BUT always making you go to a lower level feeling blameworthy and worthless!