Narcissists will use your trust and familiarity with them to backstab you and as part of their final smear campaign. They take this familiar information to seem to be ‘in the know’ about personal situations and then they manipulate and embellish that little bit of truth with hideous lies and exaggerations. The listener hears the familiarity of a situation and that makes the Narcissist’s story sound believable. The goal is triangulation, divide and conquer and to destroy your good integrity.

Narcissists will use your trust and familiarity with them to backstab you and as part of their final smear campaign. They take this familiar information to seem to be ‘in the know’ about personal situations and then they manipulate and embellish that little bit of truth with hideous lies and exaggerations. The listener hears the familiarity of a situation and that makes the Narcissist’s story sound believable. The goal is triangulation, divide and conquer and to destroy your good integrity.

From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist

The Narcissist’s self-regulating and controlling mechanics always involves pulling people into their lair and extracting information from them AND in turn using this information for whatever GAIN they desire or to use against them!

So what is the Narcissist’s thought process behind their backstabbing and smear campaigns? They exploit the ‘listeners’ emotions and sentiments. THEN, with that information, they make up a story plausible enough that listeners cannot verify the exact allegations, BUT the accusations they make are powerful and damaging, and they are meant to harm! It is a strong arm defense to silence and control you!

Narcissists are very easily wounded, so a smear campaign is an attempt to malign someone’s character, credibility and reputation based on lies, half-truths and malicious rumors. Narcissists distort situations with twisted conclusions, perceiving themselves as victims, seduce listeners with faked intimacy by sharing secrets. AND, they are highly persuasive. So persuasive in fact that they convince both themselves and others that their “smear” rumoring is true.

In turn people ignore their very own conscience and intuition if the rumor is sufficiently shocking. The smear campaign is such an offensive tactic that the Narcissist uses to malign, discredit, and reduce targets/victims to inferior damaged beings and stripping them of power by destroying their character. This tactic also divides and conquers by pitting people against a supposed ‘foe’ that the Narcissist singles out. Targets are stuck between a rock and a hard place, right where the Narcissist wants them to be, damned if they defend themselves and damned if they don’t.

This process is never accomplished by a single person, though. The smear campaign requires a mob of minions to carry the distorted and destructive messages to finish the job that the Narcissist started. The Narcissist who selected the target for destruction, can just sit back and enjoy the show while the minions commit an atrocity that basically destroys the target/victim’s integrity. It is an insane attack that completely dehumanizes a good person for no earthly reason other than the Narcissist carrying out their abusive agenda so they can move on unscathed.

So the point here is that a Narcissist DOES have a strong network of minions and flying monkeys to protect them or better yet hide behind. When you have been smeared by a Narcissist, it is never a simple matter of embarrassment, it is a complete and destructive campaign waged against you to completely destroy your integrity. Unfortunately, once engaged in this smear campaign the target/victim is damned if they do or damned if they don’t. Try to respond to the allegations against you and you only seem defensive and guilty. Ignore the accusations and you are left in the position of BEING guilty.

So back to basics! What is the one thing a Narcissist does not want other people to know? The truth. More specifically, Narcissists do not want the truth about them to be known that they are insecure, malicious, and devious people with a toxic agenda. Beyond being embarrassed by the truth of their behaviors and thoughts, they have a deathly fear of being exposed and REJECTED for who and what they are. This is in large part because they always use lies, manipulations, and distortions to control other people and get what they want. If people were to know about their true nature, they would want nothing to do with the Narcissist – the Narcissist is very aware of this and that is why they HAVE to build up their defenses. Let’s just say they are always prepared for the inevitable. Similarly their whole grand façade is just part of their defensive pretense. SO, remember this they CHARM people for many different roles in their world – and they also HARM the very same people as they cycle people in and out of their life to do their bidding. No/minimal contact to end this chaos and reclaim peace in your world. Greg

Posted on June 4, 2020, in Narcissism. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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