It is ABSOLUTELY amazing how a Narcissist can cover their tracks to hide what can only be described as their disordered, perverse, and out-of-control lifestyle and world – BUT they know what they are doing! Remember they are not doing this just to be the amazing actors that they are.
It is ABSOLUTELY amazing how a Narcissist can cover their tracks to hide what can only be described as their disordered, perverse, and out-of-control lifestyle and world – BUT they know what they are doing! Remember they are not doing this just to be the amazing actors that they are. These are deceptive and abusive personalities that they CREATE because they need these disguises to extort people and life using whatever instrument of abuse they can to achieve their agenda – the best word here is that they are cunning like a fox.
From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist
A Narcissist creatively figures out some unique and impressive angle quickly, and one that few people would ever engage in. Basically they are manipulating your emotions. Narcissists can typically outsmart almost everybody. They are always ten steps ahead of you, so much so that it is uncanny. They are very QUICK with these unique approaches and “BAM” they have swept you off of your feet and keep you there. What else is there to do but bask in the glow of this unique relationship! You are undeniably intrigued by everything about them. When your relationship sours because the ugly truth rears itself with a Narcissist, you better duck for cover and be ready for a whole lot of damage control.
Again they are ten steps ahead of you and have already thought through how you will react and are ready to discredit, disable, and destroy you. You can trust that they are determined to humiliate and obliterate you to avoid exposure of the truth that they are abusive predators. More than likely they have already started another relationship well before they ended the relationship with you. It is always new and better supply and they will keep up this abusive cycle all throughout their lives.
A skillful Narcissist can tell anybody and everybody a great story just like reciting a well-known fairy tale because they are some of the greatest storytellers. They can weave fictional tales and lies into a complex story about themselves. They mesmerize you with amazing facts, statistics, trivia, history of events, to the point that you feel overwhelmed and just amazed at their acuity and accuracy. They are always the center of these stories, often re-writing their personal history, and lying to embellish the stories. One thing you can say is that they are hardly boring with their accounts of their amazing world and life.
They can incessantly talk and talk about most anything without skipping a beat with their interesting information. They are human chameleons that study human nature, but with a goal to further their power by enhancing their stature and influence the people around them to get what they crave – supply. Undoubtedly, they exaggerate their every claim and position in their life. They are addicted to this omnipotence and we are what they need to use as a mirror to see this amazing reflection of themselves. Unfortunately, what they do in the darkness without a care to the people that love them is also part of the equation and their ability to tell an amazing story to cover up their out-of-control lifestyle.
They create many theatric roles to cover every possible range to get supply. My point here is that they can also be highly “respectable individuals” in any facet of life like a therapist, judge, law enforcement personnel, a doctor, preacher, or just about anything. They will most assuredly use their power and authority to create intimidation, distance, admiration, respect and even abuse. They might even be that bad boy or girl that has many tattoos, piercings, chains, motorcycles, fancy cars, brash and loud, etc. Then again they can also be the lovable and huggable ‘big ole teddy bear’ type of person full of hugs and kisses. They are just everywhere because their ‘false mask and persona’ is what we see first and not the personality disorder.
This is what makes it so hard to discover the reality of just how disordered they are especially at first glance – remember, THEY are hiding in plain sight! A Narcissist will actually believe they are the persona or character they are displaying. They are just that good at mimicking life and situations to create any scenario to harvest what they need to extort from life and people. This is very scary because most people just don’t see this and get taken in and destroyed. Knowledge and education is imperative for clarity so WE can pull ourselves OUT of the darkness and destruction these abusers create in our lives and world. Our voices are ALSO very important so that we can also share the truth about this abuse so others can also find their way too. No/minimal contact! Greg
**** A BIG shout out to our friend/follower ‘Jane Macdonald’ from the page that came up with the words for this Meme. Thanks Jane for the great analogy! ****