Narcissists know EXACTLY what they are doing.
Narcissists know EXACTLY what they are doing. The PROOF – you and me and 160,000 followers that are RIGHT HERE among us that have all experienced how they took us from CHARM to HARM and everything else in between! It is no coincidence that Narcissists all follow the same playbook – it is who THEY are! That is why WE must have clarity to understand what they are doing OR what have done to us so we can completely get away from them and stay away. Knowledge is our power!
From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist
So this is how it goes down! First, there are no human rights involved and it is DESIGNED to be that way so a Narcissist can gain complete control over their target or victim – it is about a premeditated agenda for GAIN – their gain because they want and need something from us! Basically we are there for their use and they completely exploit everything they can from us – mentally and physically. They feel no remorse in their acts of deviance to secure supply in the least bit. Lies, betrayal, manipulation, etc., are only tools to extract what they need before they move on to the next and the next and the next. They have perfected and honed these tools to work to their utmost advantage to meet their needs in EVERY situation.
SO, in a nutshell this is what they are: The Narcissist is a human that is not fully functioning – and quickly becomes very adept at “fitting in” with camouflage or “a mask” as described clinically. Initially, the Narcissist will size up AND take in as much if not of all of the new target’s behavior and mimic it or mirror it back. The Narcissist is VERY ADEPT AT THIS and will carefully study the target’s interactions with others, as well as their body language, tone of voice, and general demeanor. As an expert predator/hunter, the Narcissist will methodically craft a plan of attack and begin to trap their target. The Narcissist’s approach with the target is always complimentary words and statements. Then the Narcissist will model themselves and their behaviors to what he/she thinks will please and SNARE their new targets into their web of deceit and destruction. The Narcissist will assume the behavior of the target’s “perfect partner”. The Narcissist knows what the target desires in a friend, partner, or mate and morph’s right into that role – the MOST PERFECT connection. This is the most important aspect in the Narcissist’s arsenal of tools – GAINING TRUST of their target soon to be victim – this is CHARM or LOVE BOMBING. Without it the cycle of abuse and extortion just will not happen and the Narcissist is unable to secure their LIFE SUSTAINING supply. Remember without it they CAN NOT survive – so this basically described the reality of the situation PREDATOR, PREY – and a VERY cognitive process. The word PREDATOR is very important to understand – and simply explained they are LOOKING for their next victim OR their next fix of the drug of their choice – SUPPLY.
The Narcissist is always fanatical, extreme, and very dangerous because of their all-pervasive nature that permeates every aspect of their life. Couple that with their non-existent empathy for life and people and you have a very dangerous predator on the loose. The “people objects” that they manipulate into their pervasive world are always the casualties. At stake is NEVER EVER the preservation of the person the Narcissist uses – but instead the Narcissist’s very own NEEDS and survival.
As with ALL Narcissistic supply (all sources), once the person or people are no longer instrumental – the Narcissist loses all interest in them, devalues them and ignores them so he/she can move on – and again they do this purposely and knowingly. Their world is delusional and they have shored it up with all of these tools to extract what they need from us. To them it is lifestyle and they don’t think twice about how they destroy lives and families – it is part and parcel to who they are. The Narcissist might even wish to destroy the person as a punishment or revenge for incompetence at providing Narcissistic supply. Narcissists switch supply and ideologies with the ease as defined by the manner in which they change partners, spouses and value systems – and AGAIN remember this is the working component of their life – and it is a cognizant process – or they are thinking, planning, and plotting all along the way. They know EXACTLY what they are doing and this was just another exploitation of a human being and they are off to the next, and the next! No/minimal contact! Greg