We are “people objects” to a Narcissist. Our role is to serve their every need PERIOD! We are only an EXTENSION of the Narcissist or an embellishment because WE HAVE SOMETHING THEY NEED and WANT. Without us they are just a huge void!

We are “people objects” to a Narcissist. Our role is to serve their every need PERIOD! We are only an EXTENSION of the Narcissist or an embellishment because WE HAVE SOMETHING THEY NEED and WANT. Without us they are just a huge void!

From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist

In short we must support and magnify the Narcissist, echo and amplify their life, their views, their knowledge, and even their history. Fail to do so and there is a replacement waiting in the wings. They lack EMPATHY so they just don’t care about any consequences as it concerns the destruction they cause through their extreme manipulation to secure supply or “people objects.”

A relationship with a narcissist is very much like that of the predator after its prey. The Narcissist is adept at identifying their target and then skillfully going in for the kill or abuse. The Narcissist seems to have a sixth sense that other humans do not possess. This sense is more like a manipulative skill they have honed in on and sharpened that a predator would use to locate and trap their prey. It is a sense that is uncanny in determining those of us who will fall victim to the Narcissist’s advances and extreme manipulation tactics – but it DOESN’T define us as weak or to blame for THEIR abuse.

The Narcissist is always fanatical, extreme, and very dangerous because of their all-pervasive nature that permeates every aspect of their life. Couple that with their non-existent empathy for life/people and you have a very dangerous predator on the loose. The “people objects” that they manipulate into their pervasive world are always the casualties. At stake is NEVER, EVER the preservation of the person the Narcissist uses – but instead the Narcissist’s very own NEEDS and survival AND avoiding exposure that they are ABUSERS.

As with ALL Narcissistic supply (all sources), once the person or people are no longer instrumental – the Narcissist loses all interest in them, devalues them and ignores them. The Narcissist might even wish to destroy the person as a punishment or revenge for incompetence at providing Narcissistic supply. Narcissists switch supply and ideologies with the ease as defined by the manner in which they change partners, spouses and value systems.

In the overall design of things, misfortune to others does not matter to the Narcissist when they have objectified a human being to obtain their drug of choice or “supply.” It is solely based on what this person has to offer, or what can be taken from this person, and this must resonate in the Narcissist’s grand scheme of things. The Narcissist is convinced of their uniqueness (omnipotence) and basically we are there to serve their needs – they are delusional in this manner. There are no written laws that the Narcissist will comply with when it comes to how they treat other people. ALWAYS remember that these shrewd Narcissists lure their prey into an emotional trap with their faux CHARM that is personally created for each of us. If that doesn’t describe a true predator I don’t know what else could or would.

There are no human rights involved either, basically we are there for their use and they completely exploit everything they can from us – mentally and physically. They feel no remorse in their acts of deviance to secure supply in the least bit. Lies, betrayal, manipulation, etc., are only tools to extract what they need before they move on to the next and the next and the next. They have perfected and honed these tools to work to their utmost advantage to meet their needs in EVERY situation.

In the Narcissists grand scheme of things there is never a relationship with any one person as it concerns love, growth, goals, dreams, togetherness AND equal rights where any person ever has a separate identity OR meaning to the Narcissist – EVERYONE IS JUST AN OBJECT. Everything and everyone is just an opportunity for extorting supply. Everyone is a “people object” in their world and our connection is nothing more or nothing less than the next person’s.

As always I end with go “NO CONTACT” – unequivocally it is the only way to gain your freedom from this calculating, disordered, manipulating, cunning, lying, extortionist and abuser that MEANS to inflict damage on their prey as well as take everything they can! You can and will recover from this abuse – but YOU MUST understand that the Narcissist is as calculated in their attacks on people as is a shark with its prey. Once you establish the facts/truth about your abuser you must put it all into perspective to release from the “blame and shame” as well as the worthlessness that you feel and the Narcissist made you internalize or better yet forced down your throat. Find that spirit, it is still there with you as well as your self-esteem, goodness, empathy and LOVE — I promise you that this had NOTHING to do with who or what you are, it has to do with an extremely disordered person that manipulated you into ALL OF THIS because they are an abhorrent and disordered piece of poo. You are and always have been the beautiful and amazing person you always were – THAT IS WHY YOU ARE STILL HERE TODAY and you still have tomorrow – and don’t give that up. You WILL be the person you once were! GREG

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