Just say NO to the Narcissist!
Just say NO! NO means many things to a Narcissist but basically it is rejecting their lies, manipulation and ABUSE. Once they sense that you have caught onto them, you become a target and they will attempt to annihilate you. SAYING no to the Narcissist to you and I is our freedom! That means we are claiming our power and individualism back – and most importantly breaking free, moving forward, and discarding them completely so we can work on a healthy life once again.
From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with aa Narcissist
A Narcissist clearly crosses the boundaries of defying another person’s human rights and dignity, so much so it is clearly classified as emotional and psychological abuse. They tear down a person’s psychological well-being in such an insidious manner that the target becomes completely vulnerable, unprotected and attacked like a predator chasing and tiring out its prey to immobilize it.
They will verbally assault you to exert their power to gain CONTROL over you. Be it making fun of us, belittling us, criticizing us, name calling, screaming at us, threatening, constant and excessive blaming, making us the brunt of their delusional and perverted humor using sarcasm and humiliation. ALL OF THIS is done CONSISTENTLY in an effort to weaken their target, and erode their sense of self confidence and self-worth. The Narcissist wants to control your every action and dominate you. They have to have their own way, and will resort to whatever works, even threats to control their targets/victims.
As simple as it all sounds the Narcissist’s aim is impeccable and all of us are the targets and we make their life work. Think about their attacks. Who does the Narcissist call a liar? The honest person and usually that means you and me, but who is the real liar – the Narcissist? Who does The Narcissists say is bad, dangerous and the abusive person? Well again the good person that actually cares for them and probably loves them and that is us again. They will put themselves before their own biological children and family, and that speaks so loudly about how disordered they really are! Remember though they are quite talented at what they do, and they have all of this down to an art form so their talent for farce is so great that MANY people mistake the Narcissist for stoic and astute as we have all done.
They are working that image for sure and hanging onto that mask for dear life. But in that definition just remember that their insecurity is so intense that they have to seek out many mirrors (people) to constantly reinforce the big façade or the big lie of what and who they are. They have no room for anything else in their lives other than keeping that façade and themselves viable and alive – but it is not plausible because they are so out of control that they always get caught up in their own game, so they have to put just as much energy into protecting their lies or become an outcast.. You can only fake it for so long! Test them by disagreeing with them and you will see that Narcissistic rage come out in full force. Much of their energy goes into protecting themselves and that façade or they will be outed as the ABUSER they are. Everything is a perceived threat to them because their whole world is BUILT ON LIES!
This is the reality with a Malignant Narcissist be it a wife, husband, partner, brother, sister, friend, mother, father or whomever. There is and never was ANY type of a real relationship, just time lost with a disordered, destructive, and abusive person and great loss. There is no closure to this abuse because there is no real person, so we only have the sad truth to embrace to start us out on a realistic path of recovery AND yes heal and join life again. Any interaction with a Narcissist is ALWAYS damaging and destructive to people – that is why we are all here sharing to educate and help resolve these issues with all targets. Say NO to that Narcissist with NO or minimal contact and start on YOUR journey Forward! Greg