This is so true – we must take a stand and our voices are important!

This is so true – we must take a stand and our voices are important!

From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist

The anatomy of a Narcissist and what makes them so dangerous:

There are drugs that paralyze the mind that predators use on their victims, and then there is manipulation that brainwashes a person’s mind – that describes the abuse from a Narcissist. One is quick (the drug) and the other (manipulation) is a slow and insidious process administered over time, but both methods essentially do the same thing to the target/victim and that is altering their state of consciousness with a destructive agenda that is meant to dehumanize and diminish the target/victim by debilitating their normal thought processes – or CONTROL. So, we don’t (and didn’t) react as a healthy person would because this wash extreme emotional/psychological manipulation and brainwashing. Yes, this betrayal and huge con job was psychological terrorism or psychological rape. Both designate the same meaning that this was mediated by a highly dysfunctional person with an agenda to extort through disabling a person’s mind. Yes, I defined this using a different angle, but it does put the definition of this abuse in a shocking but realistic portrayal. I guess I am saying this to help targets/victims get a stronger sense of the manipulation to help lead them to their ‘ah ha’ moment – as well as to depict the truth of what these abusers do!.

Narcissists have absolutely no capacity for context. Either you see things their way or you must be crushed into the ground. You can’t respectfully agree to disagree with them. Any criticism, difference of opinion is a challenge to their “authority” and is seen as a threat and will be treated as such and you will be devalued, demeaned, debased and dehumanized – it is just that serious to them. BUT serious to them is not in any normal context – it is complete denial and avoidance all bundled up in all of these tactics to be in control and exert power over us because they have an agenda and that is to objectify ALL people to get at something they want. Remember we are only an object to serve them so we must revere them as well OR ELSE!

Narcissists “gas-light” by denying things they’ve said or done. They also twist a grain of truth into a huge distortion until you begin to doubt your own sanity and look like the crazy person when you try to defend yourself. It is a process to make you feel as if you are crazy and no longer have the ability for normal reasoning.

The Narcissist employs loud and deliberate RAGING when all else fails. The more wrong an emotionally abusive Narcissist is (especially when they are caught in their lies and schemes) the louder and/or more resolute they get. Their level of fake outrage, vindictiveness or emotional withdrawal is in direct proportion to how accurate you are. They will either talk over you, shout at you, use and repeat the same empty/simplistic, emotionally-charged statements over and over until they drown out all reason or you pass out from the exhaustion of it all. They will give you the silent treatment until you submit and apologize for your “offense.” BUT THEY COMMITTED THE OFFENSE and they are very adept at diverting from the truth with their pathological bullying so we retreat and learn our lessons. They are psycho bullies and trample every single boundary you have. My Narcissist employed this tactic every time they would find some anonymous sexual partner. First the incredulous story that I would shake my head at in total disbelief, then the extreme rage attack because I just didn’t believe this Narcissist.

Narcissist are also very adept at shifting blame to all others for everything that is wrong and never consider how they contribute to and cause the issues and their own unhappiness. They shift responsibility to make you seem bad and crazy in an effort to shame you into submission. They will punish you for their own offenses as well – that is what we are “employed” for by the Narcissist. We are here to serve them, save them, take care of their every need, change their diapers, accept all of their faults as if they are our own, allow them to betray us and accept it as well as be blamed for it, we must allow them to extort everything they can from us, we are not allowed to view any of this as anything but a privilege to be in their company. If we follow all of these rules we are allowed to care for them, be a friend, or even love them but we must also pay the price for this wonderful relationship by being stripped of our integrity, self-esteem and driven to insanity from their delusional abuse. Lastly when they are done with their pillaging and they have found a new source they will attempt to destroy our character so they can escape and move onto their next target.

At heart, a Narcissist is a terroristic bully who will try to steamroll anyone who disagrees with them – even their own biological children. It’s not just about controlling THEIR reality, but controlling everyone else’s reality, too. REMEMBER, this all started with the biggest manipulation and that was abusing real emotions like care and love to gain our trust so we would BELIEVE in them and bond with them – once there they break into our hearts and minds to locate our weaknesses to diminish our spirit and weaken our defenses! Their manipulative and dangerous agenda is NEVER apparent in the beginning and THAT is how the abuse and victimization starts with ALL of their targets. When you allow a narcissist to determine reality, you’re letting one of the inmates control and run the asylum as the saying goes! No/minimal contact at all costs. Greg

Posted on August 31, 2019, in Narcissism. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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