With every other manipulative and destructive tool the Narcissist uses, they intentionally and consistently BLAME us for everything/anything to keep us in that distorted fog of constant confusion and control – or locked up in our minds and hearts trying to figure out what is wrong, and how to fix this.
With every other manipulative and destructive tool the Narcissist uses, they intentionally and consistently BLAME us for everything/anything to keep us in that distorted fog of constant confusion and control – or locked up in our minds and hearts trying to figure out what is wrong, and how to fix this. There is no fix except to get out completely! Remember that everything a Narcissist does is done to make their victim react – there is no substance JUST AN AGENDA to get something.
From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist
The reality of what they really are and what they do to malign people:
A Narcissist lacks all social graces in the most extreme ways because underneath their ‘seductive’ façade, they don’t honor any human rights, any standard, respect individuality, have integrity, or obey any written law. They live life in an extremely pathological and abusive manner.
They imitate a functioning human being and take everything they want and need through some extreme and manipulative methods. They also get bored easily with their conquests SINCE they lack the mechanisms to form healthy bonds (and decisions), so they STRAY very easily to keep the excitement and adulation flowing in their world. Now it is bad enough they are life’s extortionist, but they also seem to loathe all healthy loving people that would dare express their individuality, question them or demand accountability, so they lose their patience with us quickly and psychologically attack our minds in an effort to destroy our life as we know it.
Like any other bully you have to disengage from the Narcissist because if you don’t, they will only attack you in unimaginable ways to destroy your integrity as well as your life. They have to win the battle they have with life, people and essentially the WHOLE world! You will ‘seemingly’ end up being the crazy one and the abuser because they will make you out to be everything bad/wrong just like a psycho bully would react to remove any blame from themselves and pass it onto you, basically their back-stabbing and smear campaign.
Not a very pretty package at all. Just always remember, you haven’t done ANYTHING wrong to deserve this because they don’t function like other human beings. They don’t even have a clue what liking, caring or LOVING is so they live without it by pretending they know it, but you CAN’T pretend to love especially when you have no empathy or morals, and it catches up with the Narcissist very quickly because they are so ‘out of control’ and careless.
What it boils down to: Narcissists relate to other human beings as objects. You know objects, the things to use and ab-use for self-serving purposes. Things that have no rights, things that are inanimate, things that have no feelings. Perhaps a good example would be like a tool that performs a certain function, and we are just one of MANY of these “tools” that they USE. NO/MININAL CONTACT. Greg