Chaos is the ‘go to’ tool that toxic individuals use to create diversion, and confusion with their victims.

Chaos is the ‘go to’ tool that toxic individuals use to create diversion, and confusion with their victims. it is a major form of ‘supply’ for them because it is power and control over individuals that they desperately need to make their desperate agenda work.

From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist

Think of the many situations where you are taken from a normal day to being completely thrown off balance by one of their ‘out of the blue’ chaotic attacks. There is no rhyme or reason to their logic – just a ‘hit and run’ situation that leaves you shaking your head, shocked, silenced, withdrawing, isolated, stuck in your own head trying to reason through this, and once again diminished and managed down for no reason whatsoever. Each time you lose a little bit more of yourself and become more and more VULNERABLE because you know that any attempt to work through one of their chaotic outbursts is just futile so you only withdraw from the situation completely. The thing we must understand is that the Narcissist is looking for this exact reaction and why they act out as they do.

That VULNERABILITY of a target/victim, is just an OPPORTUNITY for the Narcissist to suppress their target to inflict more of their poison, but ONLY if there are no witnesses — so consider it as premeditated because it is. Narcissists aren’t inconsiderate of your feelings, to the contrary, they are extremely considerate of your feelings and they are monitoring them to see just WHERE your weaknesses are so they can inflict chaos/harm. Your feelings are exactly what they are trying to affect. They closely observe how you react every time they do something to hurt you and then they build it into their arsenal of tools to use against you in the future. Cause and effect is cognitive thinking so they know exactly what they are doing – getting the best of you to push you as close to the edge as they can!

We tried to function as a normal person the best we could – but it was a situation that was personalized and created just for us with “doom and destruction” in mind. YES we tried to fix it because our lives are loaded and impacted by empathy and love – but is that a punishable offense. Any way you look at it the target/victim somehow gets the label and the blame because the Narcissist is VERY motivated to hide their acts of chaos, crazy making and psychological terrorism. The only way to end this type of chaos is to disallow it by disengaging completely. Greg