Emotional and psychological abusers tether their victim like a puppet with many strings by using controlling words and actions to diminish, demean, make them react, create fear, isolate, etc.
Emotional and psychological abusers tether their victim like a puppet with many strings by using controlling words and actions to diminish, demean, make them react, create fear, isolate, etc. This is a slow and insidious abuse that corrupts a person’s core values and destroys their self-esteem through brain-washing, manipulation, and conditioning so the perpetrator can have complete control over the person.
From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist.
When you came out of this you felt like you were in a fog, or better yet that your reality was altered and basically it was through the slow process of brainwashing and the manipulation from your perpetrator. You are traumatized, confounded and confused and wondering what hit you squarely in the brain. We are functioning, but not as we once did. If we were the person we were before this abuse we would have had a much clearer perspective AFTER the discard, but unfortunately we are not that person anymore. We have gained the knowledge, but we are vulnerable and damaged, so we really struggle.
We weren’t in denial in the beginning we were tricked, conned, manipulated, etc. But here is the point — we never realized any of this in its entirety while we were with them and WHY? Well because the agenda of the Narcissist was not apparent, and the manipulation was subtle and consistent. We were always drawn back into the abuse through Narcissistic magic and trickery to keep us in the cycle of this abuse. Day by day we were managed down more and more through the Narcissist’s vast arsenal of tools to the point that we were not in our original state of conscious thinking and disabled emotionally. Our reality was altered by our perpetrator so they could use us exclusively for THEIR needs and at a great cost to us.
YES, this betrayal and huge con job was psychological/emotional terrorism or psychological/emotional rape AND abuse. ALL of those terms designate the same meaning that this was mediated by a highly dysfunctional person with an agenda to extort through disabling a person’s mind or again control. Yes, I defined this using a different angle, but it does put the definition of this abuse in a shocking but realistic portrayal. This is/was abuse and very destructive to us and now we must move forward to recovery that involves many different levels of healing – but this is where we must go to regain a healthy mind, body and spirit. No/minimal contact is the only way to start your journey! Greg