Abuse creates a fog around our hearts and minds that can be so thick we can barely see reality OR function normally as we once did. Abuse is debilitating to all people.
Abuse creates a fog around our hearts and minds that can be so thick we can barely see reality OR function normally as we once did. Abuse is debilitating to all people. Knowledge and education provide clarity and lift that fog so we can move forward to a healthy life!
From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist
We weren’t in denial in the beginning we were tricked, conned, manipulated, etc., to believe that we had some sort of a real connection but here is the point we also never realized this in its entirety while we were with them and WHY? Well because the agenda of the Narcissist was not apparent, and the manipulation was subtle and consistent. We were always drawn back into the abuse through Narcissistic magic or trickery. Day by day we were managed down more and more through the Narcissist’s vast arsenal of tools to the point that we were not in our original state of conscious thinking – our reality was altered by our perpetrator, so they could harvest us as supply!
Who could EVER believe the truth that presented itself to us and lives in us about this abuse and how someone just used/abused us for the time they did and how they were inclined to destroy us as well. It is still hard for me to accept, but I know better because I lived through it and the truth is right there to back it up. What I can’t believe is that there are human beings capable of this and as a normal person with empathy it is not within my realm to understand them! That says a great deal within my words. If after experiencing and recovering from this abuse – it is still hard for a person of empathy to get it completely. But what I learned is that I don’t have to ‘get it’ so completely, I just have to understand it and accept the truth to forget about OR better yet completely discard that Narcissist because they are what they are and that HAS to be enough. Knowing and believing this enables you to move forward and work on everything else that involves getting healthy. Don’t waste your time on getting into their heads, or trying to understand them, or trying to fix THEM because you are only denying the truth YOU ALREADY KNOW! It is now time for you to get past this psychological abuse, so you can enter back into a great world feeling healthy! It is a necessity to focus on yourself! NEVER believe that they are a viable human being that will see the light and treat you with empathy, respect, or love! NO/MINIMAL CONTACT! Greg