THE TRUTH! If it wasn’t for DOUBLE standards a Narcissist wouldn’t have ANY standards at all. So, what does this mean for us?

THE TRUTH! If it wasn’t for DOUBLE standards a Narcissist wouldn’t have ANY standards at all. So, what does this mean for us?

From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist.

A relationship with them is ALL take and no give. There is no YOU – only them. There is no ‘freedom of will’ because you are stripped of your individuality and your personality is basically erased by your abuser. They are not just bullies because they strive to completely control you for one reason – and that is complete power over you. They will isolate you from the world to maintain this control and convince you that YOU are defective so that you will remain in their orbit for as long as they can steal away your energy as well as provide them with everything they want and need. Everyone is a puppet that will become tethered to their control if they BELIEVE in them.

Believing in them or their fake sincerity or participate in any of these ‘poison conversations’ and you are allowing a Narcissist to access your mind and uncover your deepest and darkest secrets and insecurities AND they will exploit them completely, but always under the guise of concern and caring. They will even fuel a conversation to manipulate you into ‘providing’ personal information about yourself, a situation, or a familiar person to extort the knowledge and use it against you. Narcissists are backstabbers pure and simple! What is carefully hidden under their ‘fake’ empathy is an agenda to manipulate and exploit those weaknesses and use them against you in any number of different ways. They will call upon this personal information AT ANY TIME to dehumanize you and invalidate you USING those thoughts that you genuinely trusted them with. They will take those ‘innermost thoughts and secrets’ and make themselves ‘in the know’ about your private and personal life issues with ‘others.” They will run with this information and negatively triangulate with friends, family, your boss, and co-workers with that ‘very personal’ information they have gained through sharing your private concerns with them. It is natural to vent with the person you love or trust, but NEVER with a Narcissist because they will use it against you to always keep you in a controlled state of confusion and chaos.

We never WANTED this – we were manipulated into this place because they used the direct opposite or extreme CHARM to get our trust, our care, our friendship, and even our love – but it was ALL lies. This was all a trap set by a highly disordered and manipulative abuser ALL for their gain. In the end they had to destroy all evidence of our time with them as well as our integrity – and why – to avoid exposure. Remember they started this with the devaluation once we fell for their emotional charm. They need to wipe the slate clean so they can move onto their next target and start the whole process over again. We must know and accept the truth about them so that we can move away from them completely – this is where healing and recovery begins — with the truth that they are abusers. No/minimal contact. Greg

Posted on June 22, 2019, in Narcissism. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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