We must discard the Narcissist from our world and life to move forward.
Once we understand the truth about a Narcissists we MUST walk away from them and completely reject their attempts at using and abusing us because we are dealing with a disordered and dangerous personality. We MUST empower ourselves with this truth to heal and move forward to a healthy lifestyle once again. No more NARCISSIST!
From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist
This sums it up perfectly with a Narcissist – there is no ‘real self’ – but there are many facsimiles/facades that serve whatever need the narcissist may have at ANY given moment. It is all about their convenience and what serves them!
A Narcissist is so seductive that he/she makes you believe in him/her with your whole heart, mind and soul. Unfortunately for all who tread on this emotional rollercoaster with a Narcissist they don’t realize just how dangerous this CON-nection with them is until it is too late.
The charm a Narcissist utilizes creates an oblivious feeling of being connected and very attracted to most everything about them. We can become fascinated with someone because of their physical beauty BUT a charming and captivating narcissist does not necessarily have to have good looks to draw you in. Good looks, definitely, can increase the magnetic pull towards the Narcissist, but that is not at the core of this abuse, it is the manufactured charm that is a psychologically and deceptive tool used to manipulate, condition, manage you down and CONTROL you.
They charm people to death (figuratively) and this is what literally attracts us to them. But with a Narcissist it is a magnetism that makes you feel a sort of hypnotizing attraction that manifests itself in your psyche and your soul! In reality you are being charmed by their power of REFLECTING back everything that is YOU creating this intoxicating and deep rooted bond. This intense connection is created when a person gives you the feeling like you’ve known them a long time, have so much in common, soul mates, and you feel very safe with them – perhaps you have known them in a prior life or whatever fantasy belief that Narcissist has instilled in your mind.
This is the Narcissist’s goal and they are the biggest con artists that exist, and they mean to extort everything they can from you. They have unlocked the door to your head, and they are planning on using that entry to their advantage. They will move right in manipulate and manage down most everything that is your reality as you KNEW it. A skilled and extreme narcissist knows just how to reflect your image right back onto you so that you feel like you are almost twins. What’s not to like and trust when you have EVERYTHING in common?
They lie to weasel their way in and out of any situation and come up smelling like a rose. They are pathological liars and controllers in every sense of the word and hide their hideous and perverted life. This is the sad reality of a human connection with them and when you keep that connection alive it turns personally disastrous and destructive as the truth becomes evident that they are not fully functioning human beings and they will take your life down with them. Fortunately for some, we do eventually see the fakeness because they narcissists always get caught up in their many lies, betrayal, and inconsistencies – THAT is our ‘ah ha’ moment and that is when we must get out or be taken down by more of their chaos and abuse. No/minimal contact! Greg