Narcissists intentionally malign ALL PEOPLE!
Narcissists intentionally malign ALL people with the sole purpose to feel powerful and to control them.
From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist
Each and every conversation with them is nothing more than a ‘con opportunity’ to either GET at something they want, to manage a person down, confuse them, divert from the real truth, hurt the person, make them feel unworthy, gaslight them to make them feel like they have issues, triangulate to divide and conquer, backstab, etc. Be assured that there is always an agenda attached to their words that benefits THEM and absolutely NO sincerity or truth to their words!
You can’t have reality in a situation where there is none, especially a situation that is embellished with toxic behavior to constantly push your buttons, play with your emotions and take you to your lowest level. The Narcissist will ultimately step up their game of their abuse with betrayal, MORE pathological lies, gas-lighting, backstabbing, etc., but again this starts out as a slow and very ambiguous abuse. Unfortunately, it disables the target/victims capacity to function normally within the relationship and then it is too late because the target/victim is somewhere between their emotional connection (love) and the vast confusion caused by the debasing and dehumanizing psychological warfare.
Living with someone like this is tremendously destructive to your psyche and anxiety provoking, causing the abused person to feel constantly confused, frightened, unsettled and off balance. THIS IS WHAT PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE IS! The other person may deny your perceptions, memory and very sanity which again makes you begin to think you are crazy or losing your mind (again gas-lighting). Narcissists are always making you reflect upon your weaknesses (real and imagined) and pointing them out and also making you believe you are ‘losing it’ or you have many issues all in an effort to take you down as low as they can. This is the shrewd manipulation that a Narcissist uses to win this war they have with all people and life. It is like being in a maze that constantly shifts and changes and you just keep wandering around looking for that door that takes you out and back to a peaceful reality, but you will never find it until you kick those walls down and get out of this endless maze of abuse! No/minimal contact to break the cycle of this abuse! Greg