There is no reality to anything they say or do. It is all said or done for control and gain.
THERE IS NOTHING REAL TO ANYTHING THEY SAY OR DO – we MUST understand this.
It is ALL about the LIE and LYING with a Narcissist! They start the lying with their CHARM to pull you into their orbit and then take you through the paces once they get you there with debilitating lies to CONTROL you, break you down, slander you, or HARM you – not to mention EVERYTHING ELSE IN BETWEEN with a Narcissist that are just more lies!
From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist.
At any given moment there are lies to cover the their delusional truths, manipulation to confound and confuse you, betrayal to distort and hurt what you believe is real, back-stabbing to undermine your integrity, triangulation to destroy your immediate circle of friends and family, love-bombing to make you believe the Narcissist is true to you, blame and shame to make you believe you are the destructive force in this relationship, withholding to condition you to react as the Narcissist wants you to, raging to make you fearful of your existence, hate to reduce you to feeling anguish, name calling or making fun of you to steal your self-esteem, projection to make you out to be the force behind the destruction and deny you any semblance of your own reality, silencing to invalidate your individualism, punishment to make you accept their way or accept harm as a consequence, smearing to destroy your complete integrity so the Narcissist can escape exposure, AND many more avenues that a disordered Narcissist will travel to abuse their target/victim and make them comply!
This is THE TRUTH that you must actualize and internalize to move forward. Please take this message with you today – none of it is/was reality as it concerns you personally or who YOU are. It was ALL part of their agenda to control you and distort/corrupt your ‘normal’ through extreme emotional/psychological manipulation to manage you down to COMPLY with their MANY needs. They are destructive, and dysfunction and we must never allow this to be defined as just a personality disorder and give it credence and acceptability – IT IS A DESTRUCTIVE AND DEBILITATING ABUSE! Greg