What a Narcissists truly wants from people.
The most important thing we can internalize to move forward is that a Narcissist CANNOT love, they do not KNOW love, do not WANT love, and they do not bond with anyone in any sort of relationship. What they WANT is to control people to fulfill many needs in every area of their life.
From my book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist
What they DO is pretend to know love, know emotions, know caring – but that is only the ‘façade TRAP’ they actually wear or morph into, to bring their agenda to fruition. If you do NOT supply them with what they WANT – you are considered worthless. They only WANT what they WANT – what you want and need is only a temporary CONSIDERATION while they are setting the trap to pull you into deception and making you part of their supply chain!
In the overall design of things, misfortune to others does not matter to the Narcissist when they have objectified a human being to obtain their drug of choice or “supply.” It is solely based on what a person has to offer, or what can be taken from this person, and this must resonate in the Narcissist’s grand scheme of things. The Narcissist is convinced of their uniqueness (omnipotence) and basically we are there to serve their needs – they are delusional in this manner. There are no written laws that the Narcissist will comply with when it comes to how they treat other people. Whatever opportunity arises is fair game to them and they will jump at EVERY single one of them without ANY consideration to any other person. If caught they will deny, deny, deny and LIE!
There are no human rights involved either, basically we are there for their use and they completely exploit everything they can from us – mentally and physically. They feel no remorse in their acts of deviance to secure supply in the least bit. Lies, betrayal, manipulation, etc., are only tools to extract what they need before they move on to the next and the next and the next. They have perfected and honed these tools to work to their utmost advantage to meet their needs in EVERY situation.
In the Narcissists grand scheme of things there is never a relationship with any one person as it concerns love, growth, goals, friendship, family bonding, dreams, togetherness AND equal rights where any person ever has a separate identity OR meaning to the Narcissist – EVERYONE IS JUST AN OBJECT. Everything and everyone is just an opportunity for extorting supply. Everyone is a “people object” in their world and our connection is nothing more or nothing less than the next person’s. How unfortunate and emotionally/psychologically ABUSIVE to the person they scammed into believing they were real and that they loved/cared in return! Lets internalize this and completely discard them from every aspect of our lives. No/minimal contact! GREG