Their words are always a trap!
Their words are always a trap they are setting for someone to create chaos, a diversion, or just plain poisonous, whether they use them in a positive way or in a chaotic or negative attack there is ALWAYS a rhyme to their reason and it never benefits anybody but THEM.
There is NO real communication with a Narcissist. They only use their words to manipulate, divert from the truth (lie), distress people, confuse people, harm people, con people, or anything that SERVES THEM. You would be better off communicating with a brick wall because at least it will not harm you in the process. Words and actions from a Narcissist are all part of their manipulative and FAKE façade/agenda – none of which have ANY basis of reality and only meant to control people and situations to THEIR advantage.
Unfortunately, we try to communicate at the only level we know and understand – and that is with humanity, empathy, understanding, integrity, and honesty – none of which is familiar to a Narcissist.
Again, they use THEIR words to create chaos, or to make us question ourselves, explain ourselves, to blame everyone, to lie, to divert, to divide and conquer, to triangulate, to backstab someone, to manipulate, etc. I could go on and on but here is the point – WE CANNOT TRUST THEIR WORDS EVER because they are always used to create some sort of reaction that is meant to serve THEM by controlling us – their words are poisonous to ALL people and we should NEVER ingest any of them EVER!
Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist.