Chaos and crazy-making – the Narcissist’s ‘go to’ tool the Narcissist uses to control situations and people.
Chaos is the ‘go to’ tool that toxic individuals use to create diversion, and confusion with their victims. it is a form of ‘supply’ for them because it is power and control over individuals. Think of the many situations where you are taken from a normal day to being completely thrown off balance by one of their ‘out of the blue’ chaotic attacks. There is no rhyme or reason to their logic – just a ‘hit and run’ situation that leaves you shaking your head, shocked, silenced, withdrawing, isolated, stuck in your own head trying to reason through this, and once again diminished and managed down for no reason whatsoever. Each time you lose a little bit more of yourself because you know that any attempt to work through one of their chaotic outbursts is just futile so you only withdraw from the situation completely. The only way to end this type of chaos is to disallow it by disengaging completely.
Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist