RED FLAG: He / She CHEATS
When you hear about someone’s cheating behavior, the very next thing to do is look for their narcissism; ITS THERE.
Who feels ok to cheat?
Someone without empathy.
If the cheating person did have empathy they’d be able to feel how their partner would feel, and thus make choices that are respectful of those feelings and avoiding having their partner feel them.
Someone who feels entitled to cheat.
If the cheating person didn’t think they were deserving of cheating, they’d be more bound to their loyalty to a person they’ve committed themselves to.
Someone who can’t be loyal to anyone but themselves.
Pure and simple, they’re SELFISH. The person that is more loyal to themselves than to their partner, isn’t a good partner at all.
We can’t be with our loved ones 24/7 just so they remember that we exist; that we have a relationship agreement not to date others. We shouldn’t HAVE TO.
Loyalty leads a person to be responsible for their commitment to us and to modify their behaviors, based on that commitment even when we’re not around.
Someone who has no boundaries.
A person with no boundaries, doesn’t tell people or temptation “NO!”. They soak up all they can get to feel good RIGHT NOW, regardless of who they hurt in the process.
They do not assert the boundaries that say, “Im off the market. Im taken. Im in a loving relationship that deserves my respect.”
Its a willy nilly, supply driven, addictive playground of limitlessness. Kids would eat candy for breakfast if we let them.
Narcissists are no different. They see something that looks good and they eat it.
Think again, when you see someone who CHEATS on their significant other. Ask yourself if it POSSIBLY doesn’t go a little deeper than this or possibly ALOT DEEPER.