Narcissistic Relationships – Don’t Waste Your Time
Healthy relationships LEAVE YOU with something – some kind of good memories that in the end, you’re thankful for having experienced, even if it didn’t turn out to be a permanent relationship.
Looking back on the narcissistic relationship ONLY elicits regret over wasted time, wasted feelings, wasted moments we can never recapture. (sans, having our children)
Memories are fraught with the abuse. How tormenting it was. How difficult, exhausting, blaming and shaming the narcissist was. The many times we had to deal with the narcissists emotional problems, drama, void empathy, and neglect.
Coming into the after shock of realizing it was all a huge manipulation by a predator with a chronic pattern of sucking people dry, does not sit well with us, when we’re assessing our damage.
We think, WHAT WAS THIS FOR? All that emotion, energy, sacrifice, all the giving we did, has to be mourned because it was never shared reciprocally.
The grief associated with this costly and unnecessary loss, is HUGE. We have nothing to replace it with, except our regrets.