What It’s Like to Be Narcissistic
Imagine a game of Golf or other sport and having the best day of your career. You feel great, but the mental wall between confidence and fear is thin as tissue paper. Everything is riding on the next shot, and then the one after that. For narcissists the game encompasses their whole world, and it is NEVER over.
Imagine the pressure should the only meaningful goal in your life be proving that you are something more than human. A narcissist’s greatest fear is of being ordinary and thus, ignored. They are incapable of being connected to anything or anyone larger than themselves, because in their world, THERE IS NOTHING LARGER.
Beyond their frenetic attempts to prove the improvable lies only a dark, unexplored void. You might be tempted to think of them as tragic figures if they weren’t so dangerous and thoroughly obnoxious.
On one hand, narcissists may be extremely intelligent or have some great talent – but on the other, is the nastiest, most inconsiderate creature on earth. You’d think that for such smart people they’d recognize the importance of considering other people – but that will NEVER happen. It’s lost on a narcissist.
From a distance, narcissists are looked upon as an admirable talent. They entertain us, we vote for them, we watch their shows on the big screen. Yet up close, these are the most vicious, hated types known to man. So even with their talents, they end up causing far more damage to others than their talents will ever compensate. Narcissists use people openly without thought or apology. Firm in the belief that they are better and more deserving than others, their sense of entitlement is the same that fueled judgment and arrogance that drove Hitler to carry out his objectionable actions.
We resent narcissists. We deplore the way they ignore our needs and refuse to accept responsibility and be accountable for the many ways they harmed us. At the same time, we respond to their immature, childish neediness and feel compelled to help and mother them.
Narcissists break the Golden Rule over and over again, without so much as a thought or drop of remorse. Does this make them evil or just oblivious? Your answer will reveal how much damage they’ve done to YOU.
The easiest way we let narcissists drain us of our very life force is to take their lack of love, consideration & empathy, PERSONALLY.
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER IS THAT IT CAN’T BE PERSONAL SINCE THE NARCISSIST NEVER THINKS OF YOU ANYWAY
To a narcissist, other people are either prospective prey or invisible. There’s no in-between. They’re incapable of seeing fellow human beings as having wants, needs, and desires of their own. Needless to say, this lack of empathy is the source of untold amounts of pain and torment to the people who love them. One of the scariest parts of the narcissist’s modus operandi is their ability to FEIGN EMPATHY when they want something. They are the biggest and best flatterers on the planet. They give away ego massages even as they are draining people DRY.