The Mistress & the narcissist
The Rielle Hunter interview has me INCENSED!
1. John Edwards has shown narc traits across a span of time which include at the very least: CHEATING, LYING, lack of empathy & concern and FOOLING THE PUBLIC with his FALSE IMAGE.
2. Rielle is a narc apologist a person who makes a defense for narcissists in speech or writing of a belief, idea and a sycophant; a person who uses flattery to win favour from individuals wielding influence. Whether or not she has a Cluster B disorder remains to be seen, but she does present with a number of narcissistic traits herself.
Ms. Hunter was interviewed on “The View” http://www.gossipcop.com/rielle-hunter-the-view-video-whoopi-goldberg-interview-june-2012/#ooid=swMGw4NTq5jaYb_YXuOjkQ9gUs7QV3_y regarding her book which without having read it, and I wont, regales her affair with the narcissistic former candidate for office.
It is common knowledge to those who are steeped in evidence of narcissistic behavior, that narcissists are well known cheaters and liars who have zero conscience and no empathy for destroying the lives of their family and all others in order to get a little “narc supply” on the side: AFFAIRS.
While it takes two to tango, there is a vast and obvious departure from those targeted by a narcissist to become unwitting narc supply and those whose own flailing ego – demands center stage right along with the narc exploiter.
Rielle Hunter appears to be the latter.
Here’s where Im incensed:
Narcissism and its effects on people is EXTREMELY black and white; textbook, and quantitatively or qualitatively empirical. To continue to pump misinformation into the public data stream via popular media – gets people up in arms about the WRONG SUBJECT.
We arent arguing about affairs, mistresses, dumb people, losers, or assholes. We arent bashing men, women, women that sleep with married men, or women who birth out of wedlock. We are missing an important conversation about the subtext which goes unmentioned:
NARCISSISM IS A SOCIETAL ILL WITH GRAVE IMPACT ON ALL THOSE IN ITS SNARE
What does avoiding narcissism in this conversation about John & Rielle do to further the ills of narcissism in our society?
How can you fully resolve to not be a player in a narcissist’s perpetual dance with drama if you’re clueless as to how the narcissist draws you into the drama?
It teaches his illegitimate daughter with Rielle that “Daddy is ok cheating and breaking the heart of a woman who spent her adult life catering to and furthering his political career”.
That daddy’s disorder is NEVER talked about and as their lives continue to orbit around his fake public persona, that the rewards of that (money, status, prestige) are far more important than telling the truth about hurt feelings, betrayl and that its normal to sucker people in using your contrived public image.
That as long as there’s an apologetic narc defender in the picture (Rielle) that the responsibility can eternally be placed on someone other than the narcissist for causing such pain. ie: “Elizabeth was a cold, witch on wheels” which perpetuates blaming of the victim for the narcissist’s poor behaviors.
That mainstream media, politicians & other power holders in our society will continue to ignore narcissism as a broken facet of society in favor of focusing on superficial issues, while ignoring the suffering of victims of narcissists.
We’re here for you, if you’d ever like to be part of the solution. Otherwise, we’ll continue to point out the truth as it stands:
YOUR DEFENSE OF THE NARCISSIST AND UNWILINGNESS TO USE YOUR OPPORTUNISTIC, BOOK DEAL AS A POTENTIAL FOR EDUCATING THE PUBLIC ABOUT NARCISSISM
IS PART OF THE PROBLEM